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thanks! (not just to you, but the other reply-ers).

Yes it is quite the learning exercise to get used to all of this and know where to be drawing lines, when to reinforce boundaries and when to let things go. What I am realising is that my threshold for giving direct feedback is way too high. I keep trying, instinctively to achieve outcomes indirectly - but way too often it doesn't work or even backfires and breeds more of the behavior I don't want.

I really appreciate having your thoughts!