Yea I haven’t found a way to do that, I know many trans people who are absolute bastards but can’t really say that out loud if I care for my reputation.
What is the trans movement if not the movement for acceptance of trans people? I don't see a meaningful distinction between bashing the idea that trans people should be accepted and bashing trans people.
There's of course the right wing strawman of what a trans movement is with ideas of forcing children to be gender neutral or opposite gender or bathroom panics, or that super straight needs to be a thing etc., but presenting that strawman is something that is bashing trans people
Tolerance and membership are distinct. I can tolerate those who believe in god without believing in god myself.
Acceptance of trans people, and subscription to their beliefs about sex/gender are distinct. There are lots of trans movements that operate on the assumption that they are not, hence refusal to believe in aspects of queer theory is the same as not tolerating trans people.
I personally think that while there should be some restriction on behaviour, and on what can be said; there should be no restriction on belief, or mandating what must be said. The idea that the latter are a natural or normal part of tolerance I find chilling.
As for your right wing straw man comment: I put it on you to prove those things are straw men, for there are certainly people who will call you a transphobe for disagreeing with any of them - those people are not right wing creations or fictions.