There's a reason you don't talk about politics and religion in polite company. You should not be judged for your worldview if it differs from somebody else. The personal should not be political.
I agree the personal shouldn't be political, but I also am willing to straight up say some people's personal lives are political, eg. trans people asking to be viewed as their gender identity is a political stance and that can mess up family/polite company altogether. There's just no escaping it.
What % of your words spoken/written are pronouns referring to a transgender person? 'No escaping it' seems like a bit much, and it needn't justify culture wars taking over an entire space.
I'd say that if someone pointedly uses non-preferred pronouns, they're being a jerk and they're the one bringing politics into the space. But most of what we're seeing here is not that scenario.