[tomerico]

This is a pseudo-science article commonly quoted on incel sites. The "data" is based on claimed interviews with a small group of women.

When you look at studies that used real messaging patterns on a dating website, you can see that people tend to message other people of similar "desirability".

See for example figure 3 in https://advances.sciencemag.org/content/4/8/eaap9815 : "Both women and men tend to contact others who are ranked somewhat—but not excessively—higher than themselves."

[ronnier]

> other people of similar "desirability"

I think it's shown that of all women and of all men, there's a lot more desirable women than men. Meaning, the pool of desirable women is vastly larger than desirable men.

[akvadrako]

What website is that data from? I see they go to great lengths to hide it and that's very important. If it's a website focused on marriage it'll be very different from Tinder.

The headline of this post agrees with the real data from reports published by OKCupid years ago, back when they were a cool company.

[aerovistae]

Bingo. The funny thing about it is that I'm not a scientist or data analyst or statistician or academic, I'm only well-read, and that alone is enough for a sixth sense to identify the writing here as a shallow imitation of a meaningful scientific investigation. Do you ever get that hunch that what you're reading is bullshit, even though you can't point at a specific reason?

[fwsgonzo]

> Do you ever get that hunch that what you're reading is bullshit, even though you can't point at a specific reason?

That just sounds like you had an opinion going in. Which happens. This study isn't alone. It happens to confirm other studies saying the same thing. Also, why wouldn't women like the most attractive men if that worked out just fine?

https://senseoffairness.blog/2020/02/14/the-unfairness-of-on...

So, gut feelings don't always match the facts! :)