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by mleonhard 1915 days ago
Would you please explain a bit more?

Specifically, consider a person who lost a child to suicide. What kind of emotional regulation skill will help them remain happy and productive at work after reading the word 'suicide' in code?

Who teaches this skill?

What percentage of people are able to learn and use it effectively?

How does the cost of learning and relying on the skill compare to the cost of changing some words in our code?
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efiecho 1914 days ago
It's not feasible or reasonable depending on the world catering to your every need. If seeing or hearing a word will result in a mental breakdown, the solution is NOT to demand the entire world stop using that word, but for you to build mental resilience and being able to cope with that word, longterm this is the only way for you to not be miserable.
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mleonhard 1914 days ago
> It's not feasible or reasonable depending on the world catering to your every need.

You are implying that someone who wishes to remove trigger words from their codebase is "depending on the world catering to their every need." I don't see how that could be true. What does it even mean to depend on the world?

Removing trigger words from work documents and systems is inexpensive. It makes business sense.

You suggest that people "build mental resilience and being able to cope with that word". You seem to be repeating yourself. Again, please share some documentation about how to do this and its effectiveness.

There's some information that you seem to be missing: the characteristics of the human grieving process, techniques for dealing with grief, techniques for teaching those techniques, and their effectiveness. I suggest that you study a bit about the grieving process. I assume that you are a mortal human. Unless you die young, you will experience soul-crushing grief one day. You will be better off if you learn about it beforehand.

It's possible that you have experienced soul-crushing grief and have repressed it. Is that what you mean by "mental resilience"? If so, I'm very sorry for you. Repression puts off the hard work and prolongs the recovery time.

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