[afutd]

Although I agree with the thrust of your edit, I’d actually be okay with making the swap if a black person from an underprivileged background told me that terms made him uncomfortable. But somehow it’s always a white woman from a privileged background that’s insisting we say allowlist or Latinx.

[rayiner]

No joke. I had a very Caucasian woman tell me why she was too “exhausted” to explain to me why America’s treatment of Muslims was abhorrent and damaging. I, an immigrant from a Muslim country who went to college in the south after 9/11, had possessed the temerity to say America had handled 9/11 with far more grace towards its Muslim population than Muslim countries would have done had the shoe been on the other foot, and praised George W. Bush’s handling of the issue. That was the wrong answer apparently.

[pseudalopex]

Saying Y would be worse than X doesn't justify X.

Are you Muslim or just from a mostly Muslim country?

Many Muslims have said America's treatment of Muslims is abhorrent and damaging. Why should she listen to you over them?

[adolph]

The white savior industrial complex is an important brand influencer segment. This is significant emotional labor they perform for “the is it Poles?”

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_savior

https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/47245/the-cambridge-l...

[DoreenMichele]

But somehow it’s always a white woman from a privileged background

It's a pattern in part because of the way white women get socialized and the role they get assigned.

I'm not excusing it or saying it's okay. I'm just saying widespread patterns tend to be driven by larger forces.

I'm not going to say more than that because it tends to be a shit show to try to say anything about the whys and wherefores.

Yes, it needs to stop. Helping white women escape the role society assigns them would be a more effective means to address this than just pointing fingers and being blamey.