[tharkun__]

This, this, this and again this!

I find it helps a lot if people's first interactions are not just in text but preferably in person but at least in video conf. The overall culture of the company plays a big part as well and so does the experience people bring with them from other companies.

If your only experience is adversarial PRs then even if the new company you joined has a perfectly calm conversation in PRs you may read them as adversarial.

Its the whole 'tone is not included in written communication' thing. So whatever expectation I have about how you would actually say the written thing will color everything. If we haven't had any real life interactions so far I may substitute my really bad 'last 3 companies' PR experience.