[flumpcakes]

This is exactly the attitude I was talking about.

You say "privilege": I spent hours every day practising to speak like news readers on TV. I don't talk like anyone else in my family. But everything comes down to not having an outward appereance as a person from a marginalised or minority group.

Poverty is the great equaliser.

When everyone assumes you are the in the "privileged" group it's hard to get help.