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I would say any company that would retract an offer when you attempt to negotiate isn’t worth working for. Probably an awful culture. The only way I could see you losing out an offer at a good company is if the negotiation drags out long enough (weeks) that someone else comes along and agrees to take the role at X pay while you’re still negotiating.

I’ve hired many engineers. Neither myself, nor any cofounder has been insulted or angry by a counter-offer. Sometimes we said to ourselves “this is kinda high for someone at their experience level” and held firm or met in the middle, but most of the time if you ask you’ll squeeze at least 5K more out of it even if your counter was 30K higher than the offer.