[avindroth]

Interesting how judgment is assumed in this question. A question like “why aren’t you living in Istanbul” feels very neutral, whereas OP’s question can feel like a moral suggestion. Seems unfair to presuppose such things, though especially in a caustic way

[PeterisP]

I'd definitely also treat a question “why aren’t you living in Istanbul” as non-neutral with an implied assertion that in the absence of any specific argument it the natural choice would be to live in Istanbul; it's pretty much the nature of any question in the form "why aren't you doing X".

[tailspin2019]

Agreed.

And I’m fascinated by some of the responses to this question, including the post I was responding to. It’s really interesting.

I come with my own bias, I’d like to code more, and arguably need to, but don’t always manage the non-coding side of my work in the most optimal way.

Really interesting to read everyone’s thoughts.