[microarchitect]

Some female academics in the STEM fields have started wildly successful blogs that talk about gender issues in an academic environment. A few I recommend to academics/grad students/postdocs of both genders are Female Science Professor, Academic Jungle and Female Computer Scientist.

My impression is that these and other blogs have been tremendously successful in letting young female scientists learn about extremely successful female role models in academia. They've also been extremely illuminating personally to me (a male engineer) because they call out instances where folks are "innocuously" sexist, and helped me understand how even certain cases of well-intentioned male behavior is actually discouraging from a female PoV.

All I can say to the OP is:

(1) she should keep writing so that young women entering CS know that successful female s/w engineers exist.

(2) encourage other successful female s/w engineers to start blogging.

(3) don't ever hesitate to blog about instances of sexism - well-intentioned or otherwise - because at the very least this can help clueless male engineers learn how to behave.

(4) Don't ever hesitate to confront people for sexist speech or actions. The problem is only going to away if we create a culture where sexism would be career suicide and the first step to this is confronting the sexists.