[simplemen]

I am assuming you don't have any kids. I used to think same way and so did most of my Asian friends. Hey I am doing fine, I end up going to decent college, other Asians can do same, right?

But it slowly changed when my friends and I started to have kids. When your kid get A but you know it is not enough. Even if you try to protect your kid, family and others tell your kid that they need to join more clubs and volunteer if they want to go to a good school. When your kid replies why and says my friends are not doing it, and you need to tell them that his friends have a different skin color and they will get preferred treatment, that's when you realize how wrong it is.

Just because there are institutions in our society which discriminate aganist one group, the solution is not to ask other institutes to discriminate against a different group. We need to get rid of discrimination in all parts of our society and not increase it.

Edit: anthoner unintended side effect of this is that many of extremely liberal Indian families that had many Black and Hispanic friends are now hanging out less with them. Because they want their kids to be friends with those who will be doing same activities.

[teachrdan]

These assumptions are hilarious. I do indeed have a child, a toddler, and seeing how segregated things are here in the bay area has made me even more supportive of affirmative action. His daycare is basically all Asian and white, and the best schools in the county are also disproportionately Asian and white.

Yeah, my son might have to join more clubs and get better grades to get into a great school--though there are plenty of outstanding schools that don't demand a > 4.0 GPA.

But I will never have to sit down with my son and explain that the police may shoot and kill him for no reason at all. When he calls 911 for help, he doesn't have to worry that the people who respond will treat him like a perpetrator instead of a victim. If he becomes a software engineer or any other white collar worker, no one will assume he is not qualified due to his race.

There are so many ways my son is at an advantage for being mixed Asian and white. The fact that he may have to settle for a top 10% school instead of a top 1% school is a small price to pay to help make up for past and ongoing injustice and exploitation of Black, Latinx and American Indian folks.