[phnofive]

To summarize: Change your approach from instilling your will into your child’s behavior and becoming frustrated with their non-compliance to patiently modeling the desired behavior for your child and asking for their cooperation. Accept that you will not get their cooperation every time, and have faith that they will eventually learn from your graciousness.

I think this would be helpful if the parent hadn’t yet tried it, but it hardly sounds foolproof. Are there any parallels in other environments or studies around this?

[junippor]

It's not clear to me that any of this is a good idea.

For example:

> Just to be clear: this is not about just following your child around, cleaning up after them. That would be a failure to teach them responsibility, and yes, that teaches entitlement. This is about seeing yourself as a willing helper, the extra support that our children need to practice or to be willing to do it themselves.

It's not clear to me that just changing the way we see ourselves will actually achieve anything. Even if we see ourselves as "willing helpers", the child might take that to reinforce their view that everyone should be helping them willingly.

I love thoughtful mini-essays, and this is one of those. I just think that in this case the author reaches the wrong conclusions.

[avmich]

I vaguely remember a speech of an MIT president (?) to new students that the faculty goal is to make them dissimilar to their parents.