[mehagar]

I feel a strong need to be accepted by other people, and one of the ways that I meet that need is by considering how my actions ("taking the leap") might affect others. Sometimes, though, I place more value on others' needs than my own. This can lead to sadness that I'm not able to do what I want.

This author seems like he wants to overcome this fear of how others may respond, and do the thing anyway. I'm reminded of the stages of emotional liberation:

First stage: Emotional slavery: we see ourselves responsible for others’ feelings.

Second stage: “Obnoxious”: we feel angry; we no longer want to be responsible for others’ feelings.

Third stage: Emotional liberation: we take responsibility for our intentions and actions.

[1] - https://about-nvc.tumblr.com/post/98642157391/from-emotional...