| > You don't want anything from me, yet you accuse me of not being emphatic. So what? Isn't some dissent normal in a discussion. Not being emphatic is not the end of the world. > how about reading other people's comments without prejudice? I try to. > Indeed, I asked myself the question, I think it is a valid one. I thought her description was interesting and I therefore upvoted it. But I also resented her for the "you are all so clueless and could never understand how hard it is for me" vibes. To be honest, I get some "identity politics" vibes from that, So I don't feel those vibes. I think it's a wrong impression and a sign of you reading it without good faith. > it reminds me of the "white people can never know how bad it is for black people" or "men can never know how bad it is for women" nonsense, boiling down to "I'm so special". I don't like it also because it is so self-defeating. It's not nonsense. It's the other way around too. But it's not boiling down to "I'm so special". The question is what do we do with this information, that there are experiences that differ from our own sometimes much more, sometimes much less. You seem to see a fight here that I don't see. > The spoon woman seems to think everybody else has unlimited spoons, which is of course not true. To her it seems to be unlimited which is very telling. |