[notatrumper]

Yes, having money is good. That's why many people strive to have money.

I personally also don't think it is unfair if kids of rich parents inherit their money (or their support). After all, being able to take care of one's children is a major motivation of many people for trying to make money.

It's also well known that money is an important factor in mate choice for women.

Even without money, biology would be at work and people would be striving to find attractive mates to conceive "fit" children.

You could then also say those "fit" children are "privileged" compared to "less fit" children.

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Anyway, as your own anecdotes highlight, if you are not rich, find another way, for example a rich person who gives you money.

[Techonomicon]

Don't think there was any weighing in on fairness going on as much as it not being acknowledged enough.

I believe, from experience seeing it, many founders who succeed will quote literally everything but their background, upbringing, and privilege as a factor, even though the fact that they had little to worry about while building their empire with respect to you know, the things everyone else has to care about on a daily basis (bills, debt, what happens if I fail) is an extremely large factor.

The barrier to entry of them taking a risk is so much lower that it is (in my opinion) directly correlated to their success at the end of the day.

Anyway, that's all. Less about fairness, and more about wish this was really highlighted more.

[notatrumper]

My impression is that "privilege" has by now taken on that meaning of "unfairness". It seems to be the most common modern use ("check your privilege" and so on). It sounds as if those people don't deserve it.

It's a shame, because I think it used to mean exactly the opposite, having a privilege was an honor. Is the phrase "it was a privilege to have known you" still being used?

[Techonomicon]

You should recognize your privilege along with your strengths, and not overtly hide your privilege to appear on equal footing.

I have intimate knowledge with writers, specifically offspring of well known writers who do their best to hide this fact, yet will still use their parents agent. And yes, it is unfair for them to believe they are on equal footing with any other writer.

That doesn't mean they don't try hard, but they do have benefits built into their life that others don't.

If you want to trailblaze without being perceived as someone of privilege getting there then you should take paths that align with that, and not ones that don't.

[notatrumper]

Pretty sure that every good writer can make it, though. Perhaps the mediocre writers have an advantage if they have relations. No doubt a lot of awfully bad books are being published every year, and some even are successful.

I used to think about this, "only people with relations can make it". When I got older I realized that if you care about some subject, you will probably end up making relevant connections on the way.

And I also think this way of thinking about privilege is self-defeating. If you don't have "privilege X", find another way.

Some writers now got rich without ever having an agent, self-publishing.

I'm sure people will find some other alleged privilege they had, which allowed them to do that. That's not the point.

If you are dead poor and have no connections whatsoever, you have the "privilege" to write authentically about being poor.