[reducesuffering]

I think most people would agree with what the cause is as it's quite intuitive based on how most societies in the world are structured. I would be surprised if the main cause ended up being different than this collective intuition.

Men are generally lauded by society for casual dating and "spreading their seed," while women receive the opposite treatment. They are still generally honored for being very selective in their dating and only engaging in a monogamous relationship with the best mate. Hence, many men end up trying to sleep with most women on Tinder, while not committing to a monogamous relationship. While more women are trying to find the best mate that will commit to a monogamous relationship.

Note: The above only applies to hetero dynamics. I'm ill informed on lgbtq+.

[iamatworknow]

>Men are generally lauded by society for casual dating and "spreading their seed," while women receive the opposite treatment. They are still generally honored for being very selective in their dating and only engaging in a monogamous relationship with the best mate.

Anecdotally I don't believe this to be the case anymore. A good quarter or so of the women I see on dating apps pretty proudly claim they're polyamorous.

[istorical]

are you in the bay area? I have found that the prominence of poly seems to be a hyperlocal phenomenon in certain metro areas but especially the bay.

[iamatworknow]

Nope, Atlanta suburbs.