[hasmolo]

at this point i find it helpful. i’ve started to see people as having two ways to refer to them, their name and their gender. i generally ask people, but that can force someone to “out” themselves.

i use they/them and have had the conversation with a lot of the more conservative people i love about use of gender and they mostly rebuke it with some semblance of the the “give a mouse a cookie” reasoning basically stating they don’t want to be bothered with learning about it.

i think including the information is a good idea, it makes it harder for someone to act like they don’t know your pronouns. it really is an identity issue and participation in it is harmless.