[vmception]

You’re overthinking this.

I’m aware of people that immediately ask for social media, and rationalize it with trying to disprove infidelity or an assurance they wont get murdered, I can tell you that most people I’ve dated over the past two years did not ask for that. At this point I think there is a level of maturity involved in not asking questions you don't really want the answer to, as they too would prefer not to lead with their social media.

Its pretty much the same as introducing a date to your friends. You don't typically lead with that. YMMV.

[actuator]

The IG thing was just in response to the WhatsApp thing. But you are right, no point overthinking and complicating it. I will upgrade to a dual sim phone and use the other sim for new stranger communication.

Though I think a lot of people do want to see IG, just to get an idea about your life, friends etc. Like a way to know about you without prodding too much. I anyway don't use IG anymore so I just say I don't have it, and as you said they seem to be fine with it.