[nbzso]

Wow, just wow. Someone contributed to OKR getting a wife. I am blown away. I will never quantize some parts of my life. Work is work. Learning is learning. There are a lot of methodologies for GTD, but in my experience balancing order with improvised chaos is healthy practice :)

PS. Joke aside there is a proven correlation between high achievement and habit of tracking and measuring a goal. I am not sure about OKR but may be the choice of which methodology to use is personal or psychology driven.

[wortelefant]

the main benefits of OKRs might be transparency and alignment, not having a quantifiable goals. I am dating without much success for more than one and a half years now, and I have yet to meet someone who might be open to build something together. I regularly spend money on platforms like tinder, veggly, okcupid with a hope that despite corona, it might contribute to such a development. Still I did not put much effort in my activities there, as I wantee to keep it playful and not follow up on it as I would with a "real goal". I feel unhappy about my lack of progress in this area and I hope that for this new year, acknowledging it as a committment will help move this forward.

[wortelefant]

Thanks for the ideas, my post was intended as an example why personal OKRs might be helpful -to align existing efforts, become aware of them and invest time with more care and purpose.

I am not looking for dating advice here, nor assumptions about my supposed views on women or my other activities in that area. There is a pandemic going on and my former social life outside is frozen, there were positive and inspiring encounters through dating apps and I even met a few friends there over the years. I am glad that more opportunities to meet new people online are slowly emerging (or more people discover them) such as zoom/gathertown meetups, discord groups etc, even as they can't replace dancing.

[ZephyrBlu]

If you're serious about dating you need to talk to women, not spend money on dating apps.

Commit to striking up a conversation with 10 new women every day. I'm sure that would push you forward a lot.

[nbzso]

On this topic I will share my humble observation. Women are mythical creatures, they come and they go. One big lesson in life that I have learned, the only winning strategy is never to overestimate yourself and move quickly when they give you a signal.:) There is one problem in making this a commitment - the outcome is not in your control. There is a limit in projection when other peoples are involved.

Note: Don’t use dating apps or services. They are really dangerous. Find other ways to connect.

[swat535]

Women are not "mythical creatures" they are humans with their own aspirations, personalities and dreams.

You can't lump them in a single category..so perhaps it's my misunderstanding but I'm not sure what you are trying to convey here?

Also, can you elaborate on "overestimate yourself" ?

I would really appreciate it if you could expand on these points.

As for the commitment, I think the point isn't the control the outcome but more keep an eye on your progress, I see it more of a checks and balances.

[nbzso]

Generalisation is just generalisation. It has usage in my view. I cannot elaborate further without making more controversial comments. For me they are mythical creatures because they are the gateway of life, and I have learned with time to listen and be aware for signals in communication. The assumption that I as a men know everything because of my rational and have tangible results is "overestimation". Women are feeling first, they have a different sensitivity and intuition for things. Thats why I love them, they provide meaningful point of view with empathy (wired in biology and very important).

[ntsplnkv2]

> there is a proven correlation between high achievement and habit of tracking and measuring a goal.

Is there really?