[peteridah]

As a POC, I find this comment and line of thinking demeaning, and out of touch with the reality we face daily.

[daenz]

I'm not demeaning anybody. Apparently I'm never allowed to tell these stories because it's never appropriate at any time, ever. But they're real and they happen, and I have more. That is also a reality, but people don't want to hear it.

My underlying point was that it's too broad to say that you'll be negatively discriminated against for setting strict boundaries. Some (more progressive) places will let you get away with more based on your ethnicity or gender.

[User23]

GP is just relaying his lived experience and not making a general judgment. Your response comes off as extremely fragile.

[hilbertseries]

It’s okay for the commenter to use an anecdote to undercut the discrimination POC frequently face. But a POC calling this out is “extremely fragile”.

[daenz]

I have more personal experiences like that, with different people, at different companies. I want people to know that these things happen behind the scenes, and they likely aren't aware of them. The only want to hear about experiences where the game is rigged against them, but never scenarios where it is rigged for them. But people should know that it happens both ways.