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by Sideloader 2014 days ago
Loneliness is primarily a psychological state. A person who spends a lot of time alone, and is ok with that, is not lonely. Conversely, there are people who say they feel lonely even when they are in the company of others.

Since you don’t seem to have a problem with spending time alone, you are not lonely and the purported* results of this study don’t apply to you.

*I am skeptical of this study’s validity but that is irrelevant to what constitutes ‘loneliness’.

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>Loneliness is primarily a psychological state. A person who spends a lot of time alone, and is ok with that, is not lonely.

Not entirely though. Part of it can be self-dellusion, and the persons can still feel worse off for being alone even if introverted, but not consciously be able to process it. Humans are social animals, introversion can be part of a development issue (like being on the spectrum).

but the "socialness" is a spectrum no? i am not introverted, or shy, or a weirdo (actually good looking and women are constantly hitting on me) yet a loner. it took me a long time to accept this. there is too much cultural/social pressure to not be a loner.

i am not interested in company, or sex. i really really really prefer to be alone, and mostly am. i live in a place i can hike 3-4 hours a day, i don't have close neighbors, i work from home.

so, honestly and without sarcasm you would say i'm delusional? i personally have never met anyone as happy as me. maybe i am delusional. :)