[scipio_orleans]

> wouldn't you take the effort to remember everything about them

You mean like the effort of writing it down? I see nothing ingenuine about understanding your cognitive limits and working around them to show that you care.

> I've met maybe 1000 people in my lifetime, I could count in my ten fingers the people I care about. Can people actually care about other people, AT SCALE, to the point where you would need an app for that?

Well I'd like to work on caring about more people. I think with personal CRMS it might help expand out my pool of and push conversations past the same ole small talk each time. Like if I can pull up something from the last convo that'd help.

[b0afc375b5]

I think it's a noble goal to genuinely care about more poeple.

> Like if I can pull up something from the last convo that'd help.

I can relate to this. Every time I'm alone with someone, my brain goes to overdrive and I ask myself questions like "what can we talk about" , "what common interests do we have", "how can I make him/her laugh", "what about this person that I don't know yet that I can ask" just to 'develop' the relationship.

But after a while of doing this, and observing myself doing this, I get burnt out and go 'f it, who cares'. If I cared about this person, it wouldn't feel such a grind to create/maintain this relationship.

[BiosElement]

For what it's worth, the answer "Who cares" is I do. Personally, I don't want to be the jerk who can't be bothered to remember names, so I choose to care.

Having said that, as long as you're not a jerk about it, which I don't think you are, I think it's personally fine to admit you've forgotten my name and ask, I'm not that memorable! :)

I think this just shows the value differences we each have from our upbringing and mentors, so it's very interesting.