I am saying that strangers (not counselors and psychologists) ask the personal questions and make hurtful comments; talking to a counselor or psychologist will not change the fact that someone looks like a cancer victim.
I understand that part now. I think we keep talking past each other about a premise.
The premise is that other people have power over you, that what they think about you matters (on a personal, emotional level). Therefore, what everyone else thinks about your appearance matters.
I'm saying that the mistake is in accepting that premise. It's false. What you think about yourself is all that matters (in the personal, emotional level we are talking about), and when you know and accept yourself, the strangers are powerless. Other people only have that power if you don't love yourself and then look to them to fill that void (speaking simplistically).
A mental health professional can help a cancer survivor face those emotions, and know and accept themselves. Then all that matters is what they think about their own body.
The premise is that other people have power over you, that what they think about you matters (on a personal, emotional level). Therefore, what everyone else thinks about your appearance matters.
I'm saying that the mistake is in accepting that premise. It's false. What you think about yourself is all that matters (in the personal, emotional level we are talking about), and when you know and accept yourself, the strangers are powerless. Other people only have that power if you don't love yourself and then look to them to fill that void (speaking simplistically).
A mental health professional can help a cancer survivor face those emotions, and know and accept themselves. Then all that matters is what they think about their own body.