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by wolverine876
2036 days ago
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I expect the following is not novel to you, but would you share how you address it with your patients and in this study? In my experience - not based on professional expertise - when people are very concerned about what others will think, in regard to any topic, it is due to a lack of self-worth or self-understanding. They want others to fill that hole, to provide the answer or esteem that they have trouble providing to themselves; they put enormous power in others' opinions. The solution is not to talk about what others think but to find help them find those things within themselves - how do they feel about their choice, their action, their physical being. This study (which I understand might represent only one aspect of your strategy with patients) focuses only on what others think as an answer to the patients' uncertainty. It seems to assume that the worth of the patients' own bodies depends on pleasing others, that the value of this body part is as objects of pleasure for others. And of course we know well that our society sends that message to women, about this body party in particular, very often. And to avoid any misunderstanding, I'm not setting up some argumentative binary concept that people don't care at all how they look. To varying degrees, everyone cares. But I worry far more about the self-esteem and emotional health of the patients than I do about how their breasts look (Edit: And I assume you do too and are acting in good faith). For their breasts, the only person to please is themselves. |
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And like Someone else said, some people may feel good about themselves but feel a little insecure about these horrific scars. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to at least know what a consensus of other folks think, and then make your own decision