[montenegrohugo]

Good read, especially the part about soft skills. Sometimes it seems to me like it's almost impossible to change them. It's "easy" to learn something hard and defined, like coding. But changing how you communicate? How you react to conflict? Your body language? It's even harder if you're trying to change these soft behaviors of someone else, like a partner.

Not sure what the takeaway is here, just wanted to express my thoughts on it. Soft behaviors seem both like some enormous formless cloud that you can't really define and a rock-solid mountain you have little hope of moving.

Also, reading this on his own website instead of on medium is a much better experience, definitely recommend.

[ericmcer]

Just get a controlling gf/bf who will tirelessly analyze your verbal and non-verbal communication. Soon you will be very aware of any weak areas in your communication and conflict management.

[throwaway98797]

Pick one reaction you consistently have that you want to change.

Every time you have the “wrong” action think about the “right” reaction. Over years your “natural” reaction will change.

[scns]

Get a coach, worked for me.