[k__]

Is "the guy paying" still a thing?

I mean, I sometimes pay for friends or my partners, but I never spend a dime on a women I was dating/courting and I never had the impression they wanted me to do so.

In my experience, women would evaluate me mostly on my character and looks and not so much on my money.

[DoreenMichele]

I'm 55 years old and swore off "dating" of the "man pays for dinner and a movie and feels thus entitled to paw me" variety when I was sixteen. So it's possible my information is out of date.

I gather things are in the process of changing and lots of people will, say, just hook up via an app. But, generally speaking, it is my understanding that it tends to still be the norm that the man typically pays for a date.

We do have the term Dutch Treat to mean each person pays their own way. Someone on HN from the Netherlands once described that as evidence of what cheapskates the Dutch are (or something along those lines). Personally, I am inclined to interpret it as related to the fact that the Netherlands has a reputation as having a better than average track record on women's rights and are moving away from social norms rooted in men paying for sex and implicitly treating women as nothing but sex objects for purchase.

(Edit: I'm American. Sorry for doing that American thing and acting like "everyone I talk to on the internet is also American." I'm really tired today. Oops!)

[k__]

Yes, it's probably a cultural thing and I couldn't even say it's everywhere in the country I come from like I said or just the women I dated.