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by Angostura 2056 days ago
I've been at a company 6 years, I was thinking of leaving because I'd achived pretty much all I could in the role. In September a new CEO joined. Having listened to their plans, I was excited, new ideas, a firm direction. I decided to stay

a month later, I resigned. They were a bully who perceived any geniuine question as a challenge. Good people, coming out of meetings trying not to cry. I was coming out of meetings feeling like I was being beaten up.

My last day is next Thursday. People keep telling me how envious they are of me. I'm feeling guilt for leaving them in the lurch.
3 comments
toast0 2056 days ago
> I'm feeling guilt for leaving them in the lurch.

Keep in touch with them, and let them know of opportunities that fit them where you landed, if it's a better place.

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marcosdumay 2056 days ago
> I'm feeling guilt for leaving them in the lurch.

You are not making their lives any worse. Most likely you don't even have that kind of power.

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to11mtm 2056 days ago
If it's a strong enough feeling, that's probably another sign of abuse from the employer.
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otaviokz 2056 days ago
The feeling of guilt is, unfortunately, normal. Just try to keep in mind you didn't really do nothing wrong, and it will help overcoming it faster.
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rightbyte 2056 days ago
Feeling sorry for someone and feeling guilt feels the same for me. Maybe OP are mixing them up? Ie. he feels sorry for them as soon as the "we are in this together" is gone?
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_y5hn 2054 days ago
Guilt (fear) and feeling sorry for someone else (empathy), are two distinct feelings.

The problem is the sociopath behaviour and attitudes, that will project all their bad feelings unto others. The sociopath won't acknowledge their own state, so will blame others, also knowingly and silently for personal gain.

The remedy is radical honesty and working with oneself. Nobody else can do the work for someone, but breaking the patterns can be inspiring.

Don't let authority gain undue power over your lives. Some day you will regret it.

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erikerikson 2056 days ago
> keep in mind you didn't really do nothing wrong

Perhaps you meant to write "Keep in mind you acted in good faith"?

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