[miker64]

I'm in a hetro marriage, my kids come to me for 'mothering,' in about equal measure as they do to my wife.

And they did that when they were infants as well. My wife did not do well without a solid nights sleep, and I was used to oncall work, all night nursing was me. This was equitable, as well as playing to our strengths and weaknesses.

There is no reason to have iron rules of we must each do every parenting action in equal amounts, but to find equitable split of the work that needs to be done.

[tathougies]

That's great, but sharing my experience was not a call for others to add their own experience or to critique mine. If you want to share, please share on the top-level comment.

[miker64]

You commented on my comment, using your experience to support a claim that societal pressure about who parents (and how) is biologically driven.

I countered with my own experience that it is not.

Ancedata all around.

I'm glad your system works for your family. Similarly, I'm glad ours works for our family. But from both stories we can see that what you claim as a biological fact is not so clear.