[tridenrake]

I am someone like you as well. I hate notifications. The only thing I like to be notified is calendar + clock. And slack at work! I periodically check my email and I rarely need to be notified anything.

My target audience is mostly the average joe internet user. What I found is that the ones who contribute quality content sometimes return back to their post to check for comments and respond. But most of the time it's unattended comments. So I am still experimenting.

It's highly likely that they have been conditioned on all platforms and expecting the same here too. A weekly digest type of email is something I am considering. Not to grab their attention, but to nudge them about the existence of unattended comments.

[alltakendamned]

How about when people return to your service, you just show them a little icon somewhere that tells them they have new replies to comments they made. And then when clicking on that, you get to see the relevant comments or threads ? It notifies them without being intrusive in any way.

I mean, I personally attempt to prevent any kind of "push" or "reminder" of happening, because that is to my benefit, but it might not benefit the engagement on your server. In essence, push is bad, pull is good as I see it.

Then again, I'm most certainly not the average technology user, so take my thoughts with a grain of salt.