[PostPlummer]

Clear goals, period.

This could be: We like to work on this and there is no deadline.

Or: Forget the details of this exquisite item, but focus on getting it working on date X.

I would not mind the perceived lack of progress in your case but see the journey as the goal. Spending quality time with a friend is about as good as it gets (until there are bills to pay, then make sure you can pay the bills first).