[theironlily]

it seems relocating would help with money, which would relieve some stress. why is your wife not willing to relocate?

[giantg2]

Because "our county is the best county" and "I don't want to"

[burntoutfire]

Perhaps present her with alternatives, such as you working part-time to preserve your sanity, at the cost of lowering the family's standard of living?

[giantg2]

I've already tired to get her to pay some of the bills. You would think that if you're making 30% of the family's income then it would be fair to pay 20% of the bills. She won't pay any. She spends as much on her horse hobby every month as I do on the mortgage.

I'm screwed.