[Nox]

Talk to a professional. It's possible an anti-anxiety medication could have a profound effect, or simply talking through the underlying thought process that's keeping you isolated may be the ticket.

I have very similar thoughts and I can sympathize with how crappy it feels. I'm always worried that I'm doing or saying something stupid, and I can't really stop thinking that whoever I'm interacting with must think I'm an idiot. Knowing that there's a schism between reality and your perception of the situation is a good start though.

Something I'm starting to do is look for groups related to my interest that interact both online and in person. I'm really into iPhone photography, so I've been getting to know other local enthusiasts though Flickr and Instagram. Meeting in person is much more comfortable, since there's already some connection and common interest.

If you happen to be in the Toronto area, I'll take you out for a beer and we know at least 1 thing in common we can talk about. :)

[GFischer]

That's a good point. anxiousThrowawy, where are you located?

If you're in the Montreal area I might be able to find a therapist willing to work at least initially for free.