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I think the biggest thing for me, which wasn’t covered in this article, was in understanding that even by saying yes all the time you are NOT guaranteed to please or make the other party happy.

This is important to understand because, speaking for myself, my emotional motivation to please people stems from my primary desire to avoid emotional tension.

In understanding that even by sacrificing my own desire I’m in no way guaranteeing that outcome was a game changer for me. Furthermore, avoiding these negative emotions can make things worse or generate more of the emotion I was trying to avoid, in the long run.