Thanks for sharing this. As someone who is transitioning from an IC to manager, I found several helpful posts. This transition is the most stressful thing I have experienced in my career. Do you have any other recommendations blogs/books ?
They don't go so much into the soft skills that are required and often the toughest part of the transition. That's where Alison Green's column (Ask A Manager) is great. (She's also written some books but I have not read them. I imagine they're great too.)
I'd recommend signing up for the newsletter and then simply reading it daily as a sort of game or quiz. Imagine you're confronting the situation described. How you would deal with it? Then compare your response with hers.
You'll soon identify some common fairly obvious techniques that will resolve 90% of problems. Probably the two most common ones:
- Did you clearly state your expectations?
- Did you communicate your concerns calmly and directly to this person?
Finally, this Hacker News thread from years ago addresses exactly your situation: