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by dk1138
2107 days ago
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Oh man, this is all so many social issues in a pot that's boiling over. First, as someone with kids, I appreciate everything my company is doing to help me manage workload and parenting. I've been impressed with my company. Not all are the same though. A friend, who is a child-less female who works with two other moms and a mom-to-be is constantly getting saddled with the work that her team members are dumping on her because of difficulties. She gets more work along the implication that because she doesn't have kids, she has plenty of free time. Is that equating to compensation? No. Does it make her feel like a second-class work citizen? How could it not. Second, especially in the Bay Area, there's a growing divide of who can afford to have kids and those who cannot. We can all espouse the importance of children to maintain the human race and build a better world blah blah blah. But that's all going to shit both literally and figuratively. Nationwide, costs of child care are impossibly high. Cost of housing is impossibly high. Healthcare costs to have a child are impossibly high. Parental leave is near non-existent. Tech firms can solve for parental leave and healthcare, but they can't and don't solve for day care and housing. The people having kids where tech firms are located are, indeed, privileged--because they're making enough money to counter the other two needs. Finally, I've had my own challenges over the past few months trying to gaze into the future as climate change and fires make the air outside today look like a scene from the Fallout franchise. The government is inept. Science is disregarded unless it makes someones internet load faster. A bunch of dumb shits decide they want to ride their motorcycles and infect 250,000 and cause $12b in damages, while at the same time huge portions of students who don't get food at home can't even get the school meals they deserve? Did I make a mistake having children? What is this shitshow of a world I've brought them into? I'll be honest, we're already a world fraught for resources and maybe we all need to think about the duty to the next generation is to not have kids. |
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I've also had the same thoughts. I was content not having kids for these reasons, but the spouse wanted to experience being a parent.