Interesting. Would you mind expanding your anecdote, explaining which spaces and what you found hostile? Knowing that would help me understand how to improve the community. Thanks.
If you are comfortable giving some examples of that bad behavior and what it looked like I'd be happy to watch out for it and call anyone on that bad behavior so others don't have to experience it.
I just noticed this comment. I appreciate your and tome's obvious concern for the community you're a part of, and I hope very much that you both continue to enjoy it and thrive. I mean you no ill-will and wish you best of luck.