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by hinkley 2130 days ago
I know a couple people who won't think about people 'that way' if the person is in a stable relationship. For me it was hit-or-miss.

Do you think if you included people who were unavailable because they were taken or you were taken, would that number increase?

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In the anonymity of the internet I am not going to pretend that I've never wondered about relationships with people who are unavailable, or despite my own unavailability. It is certainly possible to find people attractive whatever one's personal situation.

I still can't say I've found a better match.

Buyer's remorse is a real thing, and at some point it's far more important that you trust that you made the right choice than for some third party to approve of your decision 'objectively'.

Knowing this makes it into a kind of moral hazard to continue to press you for more information, so I will simply close with 'Congratulations'.