[zubspace]

The thing is, that some people are not able to rest without resolving an issue. It's worse if one side is hyper-sensitive. If you're in such a situation, putting something aside is not an option.

And I also know from first-hand experience that not talking about things is very dangerous in the long run. Solving problems is a skill which needs to be learned and practiced.

But well, I agree that every relationship is different. Do something which works for you and act with common sense. And if you're both tired, go to bed and hug :)

[jschwartzi]

You also have to choose the right forums for problem-solving. Sometimes 1230 am is not the right time for an in-depth discussion of how it makes you feel when your partner buys food for himself when he’s on his way to see you. You can bring it up but you should allow your partner to table it if they can’t handle it.