Or we could just learn the most basic grammar rules in our language so we don't sound ignorant instead of just winging it at all times.
You only hear it from English teachers because they're the only ones who want to help you. When you don't know the difference between an adjective and past participle in your cover letter or article, you just look a little less competent. Nobody is going to respond to help you out.
Yes, language evolves, but this case is a bad example of that. To me, and other people I know, "X and me went to the movies" sounds exactly as wrong as "Me went to the movies." This is not an attack on people who are saying it "wrong", because I understand that it doesn't sound that wrong to everybody. But the fact that some people do hear it as I do is information that can serve a person's decisions. It's OK to not want to "sound dumb" in a specific context, even though it would be unreasonably mean to make that accusation. The opposite is also OK: To not bother adjusting for that audience - maybe you just don't care enough about the way they perceive language.
My point is, even though getting it "wrong" is very common, this grammatical rule is still far from dead in practice, and so simply offering the correction doesn't necessarily mean the person is being purely pedantic.
Of course this is all to do with "me" vs "I". I agree the strict order of the nouns is indeed almost dead in practice.
That one's still firmly in the territory of being a good rule to follow if you're trying to communicate clearly, without being distracting, and aren't aiming at some kind of particular, very colloquial register. Perhaps in 30-50 years that will have changed.
The correct term for this is hypercorrect (this is more accurate description of this phenomenon than “less/more correct”). [1]
I’m trying not to quibble over language — just wanted to note that this is a well-documented phenomenon with a fancy name (I’m not an English teacher).
That's actually the opposite problem. The example given there (which matches the description) is the use of "a friend and I" in object position, not subject position (as is the case here) due to over application of the actual rule that one should use "I" and not "me" when in subject position.
I'm not sure that this qualifies for the same, since it seems unlikely to be the result of overgeneralization of rule so much as a simple (and common) mistake.
No, this is correct. Hypercorrection for this rule usually comes in the form of saying or writing things like, "would you like to come with Tom and I to the park?" due to not understanding why the rule exists, and just blindly following the pattern.
You only hear it from English teachers because they're the only ones who want to help you. When you don't know the difference between an adjective and past participle in your cover letter or article, you just look a little less competent. Nobody is going to respond to help you out.