[joshlambert]

Hi, GitLab product manager here. I'm sorry that we haven't provided a good experience. We try really hard to make sure GitLab deployments "just work", and clearly it does not for either of you.

Both Puma and Unicorn should be killed after they exceed a certain size to avoid this situation from happening. It's possible either this is not working in some situations/configurations, or there is a leak elsewhere although this is the first time I have heard reports of this.

What configuration is being changed from the defaults? Alternatively if you could open an issue with any additional detail we will try to figure out what is happening and fix it: https://gitlab.com/gitlab-org/omnibus-gitlab/-/issues