[pizza_boy]

I hope this comes across as helpful and not one-upmanship: it is natural to think that having a child is like many of the other things you're used to in life where you can control the outcome.

That can lead to you worrying about and optimising for lots of things that won't matter too much in the grand scheme of things.

I can tell you from first hand experience that you are not in control. You will know you are in a truly stressful situation when you've forgetten about all of the items you've listed above because you're standing there watching, not sure what is going on, just hoping that everything is going to be ok.

I hope you never get to that point and in the meantime try enjoy the ride. I wish you and your family all the best!