Not that I mean to pry but that sounds like it benefits everyone involved if it meant the pay raise – get a few months in savings in then bootstrap from there. Easier said than done I know.
My wife says she will never move out of the area. She goes to work when I get home to watch the kid and spends all that money on horses. So I don't have any free time to do LeetCode and I am forced to stay here and pay all the bills.