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> keep up financially with my spouse's career and her changing life expectations

This has been a big issue for multiple people in my social group. It's well known at this point that a relationship where a woman earns more is less stable - https://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/02/business/breadwinner-wive...

Whether this is due to sexist expectations, increased likelihood of hypergamous relationships in women, etc., is not very relevant; this is not good for men with high-variance occupations.

[tonystubblebine]

This sounds like sort of an academic take on the pattern of the woman earning more in a hetero couple. My actual experience is just about feelings of equity. There's a person who I love and respect and she's done a lot to advance her own career over the 15 years we've been together. And so I want to be able to give her an equivalent amount to what she gives me.