[waheoo]

> deemed to be bold, authoritative, disruptive and direct even bordering on hostile

Im not sure where any of that results in you being a jerk.

In your own words, its also just your perspective or "deemed" by you.

You know the lone wolf is just a moniker for office expeletive who no one wants to work with right?

Whether that behaviour is tolerated and condoned seems to have little to do with gender and more to do with your perception and yoyr employers willingness to keep either of these people around I'd want them both to walk.

Im all for introverts working in silos with infrequent checkins if thats how they perform but I have zero tolerance for people who lack basic empathy for others.

But thats a but off topic.

My point is those thigs dont make one a jerk. Abrasive maybe, but I wouldnt call it a "problem". Maybe something they can work on personally? But not something that deserves retaliation thats for sure.

[uberman]

I chose the terms specifically because those terms are most often used to shield and apologize for the office jerk.

I'm well aware that the lone wolf moniker is romanticized and applied to to such a person (if he is a man). As I said, there is a different dog based and clearly negative moniker that is applied to the exact same person should they be a woman.

I want to be clear this has NOTHING to do with introverts. I'm not sure where I gave you that impression but if I did I apologize.