[adamcharnock]

Yes, I can see how it seems impossible to avoid. And trying avoid The Thing is one approach.

Another other approach is to figure out why you have these feelings in response to The Thing. Once you know why, you can work towards not having these feelings in response to The Thing.

That route is the harder one, and so is often made much easier (/possible) with the help of a therapist.

The easy 'avoid' route takes constant low-level effort and occasional difficult feelings. The hard 'why' route typically takes more up-front effort, but much less long term maintenance.

It's kinda like software: It's ok to suffer technical debit for a bit. But after a while you may just think "f--k it", lets deal with this once and for all and move on.

EDIT: Typos, general brain fail