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by gerland 2177 days ago
You seem to be trying to give me an honest advice, which is nice and I appreciate it, but you don't seem to get the point - you do not have to, and should not, feel ok with everything that happens externally. That's not something that needs fixing. I do not need a cope mechanism. There are real things that I'm dissatisfied with and I have the right to feel this way. I can rationalise it and go to some kind of therapy, but that's not the point. I have enough "terapy" sessions in my job, that's precisely what I'm dissatisfied about. It's a bit annoying and redundant most of the year, but after the pride month you just want to never hear about this topic anymore in your life.

Imagine that someone comes to you and says that you should kneel before some random black people, because that's how you are supposed to react to the BLM narrative. You might genuiely care about the minorities and still do not agree with the BLM narrative, or just plainly do not see the point of the performances themselves. You might feel very bad about doing this, which is completely natural. There are a lot of reasons why you would not want to do this. Should you go to a therapy to be able to shame yourself more easily? All due respect, it feels that someone who suggests something like this would need the therapy more.

3 comments

Please stop.
No.
Ok, fair enough, it sounds like you're genuinely quite content in your feelings on this stuff. You do you.

If you ever change you mind, I think it'll be easier to change yourself than to change the world.

What, are we still talking about reading an article on a website, which you could have easily skipped? Or something else?