I'm in no way supporting the outrageouslu peurile post, but do you think an argument can be made that children seem to take more effort from their parents than needed? The reasons could be still external, but I'm still curious if you can do a good job as a parent without fully dedicating your time.
Full disclosure: am an armchair childless philosopher
A first time parent typically has no prior experience with being a parent, so it'd be pretty surprising if it didn't take more time than "needed". With the second child they have a better idea of what to do and can be more efficient, but hopefully have to split their time between two kids.
the affirmation than a children take up all your time is exceedingly simple to be shown false:
if a children takes 100% of your time no exceptions, what twins' parent would do?
it's clear that there's some psychological mechanism at play that transform single child parents into helicopter parents at a great conversation rate, to the point they have to oversee every minute of their children's lives without even realising that's happening
having multiple children quickly teaches you that yes, children can survive some time on their own, but multiple children is a rare sight these days
The issue is that with very young children, you ALWAYS have to be supervising them (if they aren’t sleeping)... you can do other things a bit, but you always have to keep one eye on them. It is impossible to do real focus work.
With two kids (or more), you can watch them both at the same time. It isn’t like you are always actively doing something for the kids, it is just you are always watching.
Yes. Even though our 17-month old has run of the place in a safe space, it only takes 5-10 minutes of no attention for him to come running up and trying to pull me somewhere. As above, this makes any sort of focus impossible.
The amount of time that having an additional child takes isn't linear. If you have multiple children of a similar age (which is the most common scenario); you can entertain, feed, etc. them at the same time.
it still takes more time than one children. even if it's ten minutes for things that can't be parallel like changing nappies, it contradict the claim that one children takes all of one's time
it's simple hard logic, wouldn't have expected to have to explain it or getting downvoted for it on hacker news.
When you have one child you give them all your attention. When you have two you divide it.
When you have one, maybe it take 5 minutes to change a nappy, then you play for 10 minutes after. When you have two, you then have 10 minutes of nappy changing time, then only 5 minutes to play. The time is reallocated, not added to.
There can be other reasons why parents can have time,they don't have to be POS, may be they organise their time differently or say live in a low COL location and work fewer hours or some such combination.
Full disclosure: am an armchair childless philosopher