[galoisgirl]

> But few women when given the choice would choose to do what she did. Feeding a baby in the car while doing research seems far from desirable for most women I presume. Then the question is why she did it?

I'd say the question is why men do it.

In The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, all men say "I wish I hadn't worked so hard". (That's the second after "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me", and others' expectations of male CEOs are a problem too.)

Why do men chose to live a life they regret later?

[drobert]

I think for men the incentives are different. If they succeed they have more options in dating, financial freedom, respect from other men, etc. Women get respect too but don't think more dating options (I would even presume the opposite). I met few women that are heavily into investments and becoming independent financially. Women value more relationships, happiness. Men are willing to sacrifice those for money and fame.

The fundamental issue at hand is sexual selection and the desire to leave something behind. It goes beyond societal norms and is buried deep into our biology.

> Men Wanted: For hazardous journey. Small wages, bitter cold, long months of complete darkness, constant danger, safe return doubtful. Honour and recognition in case of success. Ernest Shackleton

[cutemonster]

This is the answer, I'm pretty certain.

But I think it'd be good with more female CEO's, for the whole world (this also based on biology).

[danielmarkbruce]

Not many people discuss this. I have wondered as you do, "is a large reason there are more male CEOs etc because men as a group make bad life decisions more frequently than women?".

Anyone who has worked for a few years quickly understands that a large factor driving who makes it to the top is: Has said person made the choice to do an insane amount of work for a long time, to the detriment of almost everything else in life.

After working for a few years most people simply decide they don't want that. An educated guess suggests: what is given up + the chances of making it to the very top = bad decision.

(concrete example: Tim Cook - wow his life looks just awful to me, and he "made it" big time.)

[econcon]

>Why do men chose to live a life they regret later?

I was discussing our experiences with my sister, we are only 1 year apart.

She felt very valuable since she turned a teenager and I felt pretty worthless as a guy I had to study hard and achieve the things to become valuable to people around me meanwhile she was already cool for existing (her own words when she compared herself to me) so she never felt any need to hone other skills.

Fast forward, she has less education and success under her belt and I do support her financially as she's my only sister ofc I am not spoon feeding her but I do give her soft corner no matter what she does I must forgive her.

Why did I choose this weird life where I've overworked myself to death - one reason : it's a nice escape from self doubts and insecurities.

Whenever I did choose to relax my mind wandered off to chasing girls where I got rejected 8/10 times and developed significant obsession and skill honing to bed girls, I later succeeded by increasing my chance to 50-50 on any girl I hit on. Sorry, if it sounds rediculous because this is my experience, you might think of me as con artist but it is what it is.

As I got richer I realized, wealth is not what it all hyped to be - my dating prospects definitely increased but not that much to make difference. But now different kind of people started appearing in life who just wanted things from me.

So I switched my focus from wealth building to becoming famous/important and I succeeded by getting plastic surgery + steroid for sculpted Greek god figure and also good diet and sleep this boost my success with women wayyy more than wealth.

Now I go to distant places as a vagabond hipster and get more women interested in me then when I walk out of a fancy car. So what gives?

Thing is it's not just women's attention that's hardwired in me but men also seem to respect guys with hot girlfriends and wealth and also many times people mistake being rich for being intelligent and I am often suprized that people assume this when you can become rich by being ruthless and morally corrupt.

[LunaSea]

For men it's not a choice.

[galoisgirl]

It is.

However, I'll admit that societal pressures work both ways, they affect men too. Men are not as free to be a stay-at-home parent if they chose to as women are.