Ask HN: How to get motivated after burnout

[mementomori]

I've been interviewing for two months (the Leetcode variety) and didn't get any offers. I find that when I can't understand a piece of code, I spend a lot of time on one question. This is what happened at my last job. I often spent a lot of time figuring one thing out, and there wasn't enough help available. It seems to take me a longer time to figure things out than other people, and it seems like most teams just expects you to figure it out and then deliver. Usually after the honeymoon period, I cannot maintain interest in anything, and even though I know I need to, I just can't no matter what. It's probably an attention/cognitive issue. Anyone has experience and found a solution for that? Also, at what point do you decide that a particular career is "not a good fit for me" or "just difficult in the meantime"?

[sfgweilr4f]

Sounds like your approach to work might be the problem. Mix it up. Pick a simple side project and start then finish it. Doesn't even need to be software. The act of finishing it is the important part.

During a funk in my 20s I went into a city Id never been to and spent the whole day looking at art. Thoroughly bored out of my skull. But over the next few days I had so many ideas for things.

Perhaps you need to get really thoroughly and industrial-strength bored?

[mementomori]

So it seems like what worked for you was a complete change of context for a period of time, and allowing the mind to wander instead of labor towards a goal? That is an interesting idea. I am currently extremely bored and extremely anxious at the same time, so maybe that would work.

[cutty]

Holy shit, this sounds exactly like something I might have written. Feeling exactly the same way right now. I don't have any real advice because I have the same questions and am also trying to figure it out, just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and I'm somewhat relieved to know I'm not the only who feels this way. So thank you for making this post.

[mementomori]

Glad someone related, I think in the meantime I'll keep working at it because I need income somehow and this is a good way to get it.

[muzani]

Sounds like the learning curve is just too steep, and you're interviewing for something too hard. Maybe lower expectations and take an easier to qualify for job so you can practice at your leisure. Two months is actually quite short for job searches; expect at least 4 months even if you're moderately good.

[cyberdrunk]

Try getting a job on a smaller codebase and in a language whose ecosystem you understand very well (if there isn't any, work on it in the spare time you have now). This will significantly reduce the initial hurdles on the job for you.

[mementomori]

That's a great idea. I currently have an opportunity to help a friend with their codebase on a consulting basis without substantial pay. I am still anxious and resentful towards compensation but it's an opportunity to practice working.

[rs23296008n1]

Perhaps you should actually "burn out"? Once you burn out there is nothing left to burn. Can't light a fire in that area for awhile. So, let yourself fully "burn out" for that "place".

Take your skill elsewhere. Apply it somewhere else in some other fashion. If you return to the original place then good. Otherwise you're elsewhere and doing different or even the same things.

[mementomori]

Not sure about that, sometimes I feel like I am only happy when I'm doing nothing. I guess this is a good analogy; bottom out, admit defeat, and then start over new. But preferably in the same industry which pays well.

[rs23296008n1]

Take a break. Do something else for a month and return. I don't know why this is unwelcome or even controversial advice.

This strategy has already lifted others out of their darkness so I can only wonder about the motives of those who disagree.

So yeah, burn out is a thing. Use it. Build your resilience. Re-examine your purpose and reconnect with it.

[mementomori]

This really resonated with me, thanks so much.

[giantg2]

If you find out, let me know.